Happy Halloween

Sharon Barnes Creative Coping, Creative Healing, Grief and loss, Holiday Advice, Inspiration, Jungian psychology, Overcoming Adversity, Self-Acceptance, Soul Care Leave a Comment

Today is Halloween – the one day in the year that we dress up in costumes. We put on masks and   . . . . well, we pay attention and even homage to parts of ourselves that we hide and put away the rest of the year. Psychologically speaking, this is a very healthy and an even necessary thing, especially for highly sensitive people, which, of course, includes many creative and gifted people as well. For it is when we repress, or pretend that we don’t have darkness within ourselves, that it goes underground. Pretending that we have no darkness …

Healing Trauma in Creative, Sensitive and Gifted People

Sharon Barnes CASIGY, Creative Coping, Creativity, Gifted, Grief and loss, Highly Sensitive, trauma Leave a Comment

Healing Trauma in Creative Sensitive Gifted People: Many creative, sensitive, and gifted people are traumatized by the media coverage of the 15th anniversary of the destruction of the Twin Towers in New York City. Of course it’s appropriate to commemorate this  world-changing event.  So to help CASIGYs™ heal from this and other trauma, I’m republishing my article – Healing Trauma in Creative Sensitive Gifted People Six weeks before the Columbine High School shooting in April of 1999, my husband and I with our teenage sons, moved into the Columbine West neighborhood.  Our oldest son was in college; our younger sons …

How CASIGYs Can Become Social-Emotional ACES

Sharon Barnes CASIGY, Creative Coping, Gifted, gifted relationships, Highly Sensitive, Self-Acceptance Leave a Comment

Many highly sensitive, creative, gifted or twice exceptional people struggle to find their balance emotionally. It’s not that they don’t have emotions or aren’t in touch with their feelings, but they tell me that they are often challenged in finding ways to cope with them and manage them. Why are social & emotional needs so crucial and yet so difficult for so many CASIGYs™, (Creative, Super- Sensitive, Intense,  and/or Gifted You-s), AKA Highly Sensitive, Gifted or Twice Exceptional People? One thing I see is that often our high sensitivity makes highly in tune to things like the cultural, familial or …

Balancing Your CASIGY™ Life

Sharon Barnes CASIGY, Creative Coping, Gifted, Highly Sensitive, LifeCraft Events, Overcoming Adversity Leave a Comment

If You Can Balance a BIKE, You Can Balance Your LIFE!    One Sunday afternoon in the spring of 1999, I had just drifted off to take a nap when my husband Gary put his hand on the calf of my leg and gently shook it as he said these encouraging words: “What’s wrong with you? I’m worried about you. All you do is sleep. Are you depressed?” The searing bone pain that had kept me up most of the night had finally lessened enough that I could relax and sleep, and now he was waking me up. “I’m NOT …

Happy CASIGY™ Mother’s Day

Sharon Barnes CASIGY, Contemplative Handwork, Creative Coping, Gifted, gifted relationships, Self-Acceptance

Happy CASIGY™ Mother’s Day! Balancing CASIGY™ Mom’s Own Needs With Your Family’s Needs Today is Mother’s Day in the United States, Australia and many other countries. It’s a day of great joy and also pain for many. If you’re having a tough time with Mothers Day, you may appreciate this post from my archives:  ‘I Hate Mother’s Day!’ When I had young children, my fantasy of the perfect Mother’s Day was for my husband to take the kids and do something fun with them and leave me alone in the house for a change. That never happened, and is not ever …

Mistakes – Antidote to Perfectionism

Sharon Barnes CASIGY, Contemplative Handwork, Creative Coping, Creative Healing, Creativity, Gifted, Jungian psychology, Perfectionism

Mistakes: Antidote to Perfectionism, As Revealed by  One Day’s Contemplative Handwork™ CASIGYs™, AKA Creative, Acutely Aware, Super-Sensitive, Intense, and/or Gifted You-s are known for their great vulnerability to perfectionism. As a group, we can have pretty (OK, very) high standards for ourselves, and sometimes for others, too. Those high standards can easily slide into expectations of doing everything perfectly, which can translate into expectations of BEING PERFECT. Confession time: One day not long ago as I made meandering quilting stitches on the dark fabric on the face of this small wall quilt in-the-making, the nasty inner voice started up again: …

How to Prevent Holiday Meltdowns!

Sharon Barnes CASIGY, Creative Coping, Gifted, Grief and loss, Highly Sensitive, Holiday Advice, Self-Acceptance, Soul Care

Have past holidays been a nightmare due to ‘inevitable’ holiday meltdowns? Do you dread upcoming holiday family gatherings? It may not be a fun thing to admit, but there wouldn’t be so many movie and sitcom comedies about disastrous holiday family gatherings if it weren’t so common. So if you do, know that you’re not alone, and that if you wish, you can let go of any guilt or shame you feel around dreading them. The perfect family does not exist on this planet, from the very first family to the First Family in any town or country. This email …