US Supreme Court Rules in Favor of Colorado Student With Disabilities

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Historic US Supreme Court ruling yesterday – court rules in favor of a Douglas County, Colorado student with disabilities. Here’s how the ruling reads:  “Held: To meet its substantive obligation under the IDEA, a school must offer an IEP reasonably calculated to enable a child to make progress appropriate in light of the child’s circumstances.” According to the Denver Post, ” A unanimous Supreme Court on Wednesday bolstered the rights of millions of learning-disabled students in a ruling that requires public schools to offer special education programs that meet higher standards. The court struck down a lower standard endorsed by …

Seven Strategies to Cope With the DIFFERENCES of Being a Highly Sensitive or Gifted Person. (Part 1)

Sharon Barnes CASIGY, emotional resilience, Gifted, gifted children, Highly Sensitive, highly sensitive child, overexcitibilities, Self-Acceptance Leave a Comment

At least once a week, a highly sensitive or gifted child or adult tells me that they HATE being SO DIFFERENT from other people. They tell me that they feel abnormal and just wish they could be NORMAL! They say things like “I feel like an alien from a different planet!” and ‘What’s WRONG with ME?” Highly sensitive and many gifted people have Central Nervous Systems that are more perceptive and more reactive than that of most people. They perceive many things that go right by most people, from a tiny piece of lint on the floor to the buzz …

Does My Gifted Child Have ADHD?

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“Does my gifted child have ADHD?” is a common question for parents of gifted children. They want to know if the problems their gifted child has with paying attention in school, and sometimes also at home, are related to their giftedness or are a sign of having ADHD. Often the only way to know for sure if you or your child has ADHD is to pay for expensive testing. If that’s not an option for you, what’s a parent to do? Let’s take a metaphoric walk around both giftedness and ADHD. My hope is that the perspective we gain will …

How to Help Your Creative, Sensitive or Gifted Kids Weather Emotional Storms

Sharon Barnes CASIGY, Creative Coping, emotional resilience, Gifted, gifted children, Highly Sensitive, highly sensitive child Leave a Comment

How to help your creative, sensitive or gifted kids weather emotional storms is a frequent dilemma for parents, grandparents and teachers of CASIGYs (Creative, Acutely Aware, Super-Sensitive, Intense, and/or Gifted You-s). Betty, mother of an eight year old gifted boy recently asked me “When my son comes home from school, I can tell he’s upset by something that happened. I ask him to tell me about it. When he does, he gets even more upset than he already was. I don’t want to make him so upset. But I don’t want to ignore his upset either. Do I wait for …

Life’s A Bicycle – How to Balance Your Life Like You Balance a Bike

Sharon Barnes CASIGY, Gifted, Highly Sensitive, Life Balance, Stress Management Leave a Comment

Tips & Tools to Balance Your Creative, Sensitive or Gifted Life How’s your ride through life been lately? Smooth? Bumpy? Got a flat? Has the path disappeared? There was a time several years ago when my path disappeared.  During that difficult time, I learned that you can balance your life just like you can balance a bike. And so can you. Even if you’re a CASIGY – a Creative, Acutely Aware, Super-Sensitive Intense, and/or Gifted You! Sounds too simple─ balance your life just like you balance a bike─ doesn’t it? Let’s take a closer look. How old were you when …

Healing Trauma in Creative, Sensitive and Gifted People

Sharon Barnes CASIGY, Creative Coping, Creativity, Gifted, Grief and loss, Highly Sensitive, trauma Leave a Comment

Healing Trauma in Creative Sensitive Gifted People: Many creative, sensitive, and gifted people are traumatized by the media coverage of the 15th anniversary of the destruction of the Twin Towers in New York City. Of course it’s appropriate to commemorate this  world-changing event.  So to help CASIGYs™ heal from this and other trauma, I’m republishing my article – Healing Trauma in Creative Sensitive Gifted People Six weeks before the Columbine High School shooting in April of 1999, my husband and I with our teenage sons, moved into the Columbine West neighborhood.  Our oldest son was in college; our younger sons …

Balancing Your CASIGY™ Life

Sharon Barnes CASIGY, Creative Coping, Gifted, Highly Sensitive, LifeCraft Events, Overcoming Adversity Leave a Comment

If You Can Balance a BIKE, You Can Balance Your LIFE!    One Sunday afternoon in the spring of 1999, I had just drifted off to take a nap when my husband Gary put his hand on the calf of my leg and gently shook it as he said these encouraging words: “What’s wrong with you? I’m worried about you. All you do is sleep. Are you depressed?” The searing bone pain that had kept me up most of the night had finally lessened enough that I could relax and sleep, and now he was waking me up. “I’m NOT …

Happy CASIGY™ Mother’s Day

Sharon Barnes CASIGY, Contemplative Handwork, Creative Coping, Gifted, gifted relationships, Self-Acceptance

Happy CASIGY™ Mother’s Day! Balancing CASIGY™ Mom’s Own Needs With Your Family’s Needs Today is Mother’s Day in the United States, Australia and many other countries. It’s a day of great joy and also pain for many. If you’re having a tough time with Mothers Day, you may appreciate this post from my archives:  ‘I Hate Mother’s Day!’ When I had young children, my fantasy of the perfect Mother’s Day was for my husband to take the kids and do something fun with them and leave me alone in the house for a change. That never happened, and is not ever …

Mistakes – Antidote to Perfectionism

Sharon Barnes CASIGY, Contemplative Handwork, Creative Coping, Creative Healing, Creativity, Gifted, Jungian psychology, Perfectionism

Mistakes: Antidote to Perfectionism, As Revealed by  One Day’s Contemplative Handwork™ CASIGYs™, AKA Creative, Acutely Aware, Super-Sensitive, Intense, and/or Gifted You-s are known for their great vulnerability to perfectionism. As a group, we can have pretty (OK, very) high standards for ourselves, and sometimes for others, too. Those high standards can easily slide into expectations of doing everything perfectly, which can translate into expectations of BEING PERFECT. Confession time: One day not long ago as I made meandering quilting stitches on the dark fabric on the face of this small wall quilt in-the-making, the nasty inner voice started up again: …

7 Sensitive, Gifted Secrets to Have the Love You Want – Part 1

Sharon Barnes CASIGY, Gifted, gifted relationships, Holiday Advice, Self-Acceptance

Finding someone to love who loves you back can be especially challenging for Creative, Sensitive and Gifted Adults and Teens. Happy Valentine’s Day! This, the Day of LOVE, is often met with mixed reviews. It’s even more fraught with complex concerns for CASIGYs™ (Creative/Curious/Complex, Alert/Aware, Super-Sensitive, Intense/Intelligent/often Introverted, likely Gifted You-s) than it is for ‘normals’. Valentine’s Day can be the day of pleasure with the love of your life OR it can be a day of pining for love, pain related to lost love, pain related to the lack of love or the pain mixed in with the love …