10 year old gifted girl. (Ditto for 9 year old gifted boy. And also a 9 year old highly sensitive girl.)

A child will integrate only those experiences that her primary care-givers can accept and hold, and will exclude from awareness those thoughts, feelings and behaviors that might disrupt her most crucial attachment relationships. These unacceptable experiences then remain undeveloped, unintegrated, and impossible to verbalize. They become … nearly unreachable places in the psyche that hold implicit experiences of relational trauma.