Disappointments in love, even betrayals and losses, serve the soul at the very moment they seem in life to be tragedies. The soul is partly in time and partly in eternity. We might remember the part that resides in eternity when we feel despair over the part that is in life. Thomas Moore.
A child will integrate only those experiences that her primary care-givers can accept and hold, and will exclude from awareness those thoughts, feelings and behaviors that might disrupt her most crucial attachment relationships. These unacceptable experiences then remain undeveloped, unintegrated, and impossible to verbalize. They become … nearly unreachable places in the psyche that hold implicit experiences of relational trauma.
