Parents of 12 y/o gifted boy

Where we do not project, we may see something which displeases us but we can decide for ourselves whether it is necessary or important or relevant that we go and do something about it. … However, when we see something which displeases us and are compulsively involved in how we feel about it, and can neither take or nor leave it, then we are projecting. Projection denies us freedom of choice.