How to Get Unstuck

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Do you ever feel stuck? Find one thing piling on top of another? I can relate. Sometimes we don’t realize we’re getting stuck until we’re immobilized. For CASIGY’s, this can look like over-committing time, having too much to do with it all seeming crucial, or being interested in so many things that we have trouble choosing among them which leads to getting paralyzed and doing nothing. It can take many forms. The question is, how do we get unstuck when we’re stuck? Before we consider that, another question begs asking: What’s a CASIGY? CASIGY™ is an acronym for Creative, Acutely …

On the Road to First Grade

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The quilt, finished except for the label, was a small burgundy, mauve and ivory watercolor heart-shaped wall hanging. It took many moons to make, and I was tempted to skip the label. Painters sign their work on the front; quilt artists make a label for the back. But I just wanted to be done with it.  I hate making quilt labels, because I never know what to say on them. So I pinned the quilt on my design wall, sat down to consider it, and asked myself:  “What have we here?” The next moment, I was listening with my memory. …

My Scrap Angel: Life Lessons Learned While Quilting

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Have you ever started a creative project that went so badly you trashed it? I have–more times than I’d like to admit. I had heard that mistakes can be our finest learning experiences, but I’d not relished that idea until I reclaimed one of my discarded pieces, and unexpectedly discovered how to reclaim my life, too. An hourglass quilt block I had made from scraps contained too many mistakes to use, so I pitched it. The triangles didn’t have points; I could have done better when I was nine years old. The parallel lines weren’t parallel–they would have made a …

I Hate Mothers Day

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Reflections on How to to Heal our Lives, Feed our Souls, and Grow our Dreams I hate Mother’s Day. Awful though it sounds, I’ve hated mother’s day for a very long time.  I’ve also felt guilty that I hated it. I also know it’s not politically correct, so I’ve not said out loud. But it’s time to admit it. I hate Mother’s Day. I first hated it when I was in my twenties. I felt hurt and angry at my mother for many things that she had done or not done that hurt me when I was young. The more …

Remembering Columbine: Helping Creative, Highly Sensitive & Gifted Adults Heal from Trauma

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Ten years ago today my husband Gary and I connected for a rare lunch together. As we munched on our sandwiches under a restaurant patio umbrella, we saw police car after police car roaring south on Wadsworth Blvd, sirens wailing . Chills went up and down my spine as we also heard the rumble of helicopters. We saw that they were all heading for Columbine-our new neighborhood, where we had lived for only six weeks.  Later that day, we were horrified along with everyone else as we learned about the tragedy at Columbine High School. Today is a day of …