When you Feel Emotions That are not Your Own

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Ten year old Aiden (not his real name) dissolves in a puddle of tears. Once he has calmed down and can actually talk about it, you discover that he has no idea why he feels sad. No, he is not hurt physically.  No, no one said or did anything to hurt his feelings. No, he is not afraid or scared about anything. You and he remain puzzled and befuddled. As a parent, what do you do? And what is going on here? One possibility is that Aiden is totally disconnected from his emotions and therefore has no idea what is …

CASIGY Father’s Day Reflections

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Father’s Day has always been a complicated day for me. I shared in a recent post how Mother’s Day was not my favorite holiday. But Father’s Day has been complex and difficult in different ways.  A daughter’s relationship with her father can also be difficult. Our relationship with our parents changes through the years, and it changes again when they die. How is this different for CASIGYs™ (Creative, Acutely Aware, Super-Sensitive, Intense, and/or Gifted You-s)? Why, it’s all of these things, with more creativity, more awareness, more sensitivity, and more intensity. This post shares some CASIGY Father’s Day Reflections, reflecting first …

I Hate Mothers Day

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Reflections on How to to Heal our Lives, Feed our Souls, and Grow our Dreams I hate Mother’s Day. Awful though it sounds, I’ve hated mother’s day for a very long time.  I’ve also felt guilty that I hated it. I also know it’s not politically correct, so I’ve not said it out loud. But it’s time to admit it. I hate Mother’s Day. I first hated it when I was in my twenties. I felt hurt and angry at my mother for many things that she had done or not done that I felt hurt me when I was …

Seven Tips to Help the Creative, Sensitive or Gifted Sleep Peacefully

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Sleep can be elusive for anyone, whether you’re 3, 13, 33 or 83. We all have nights where we toss and turn, or get to sleep but we can’t stay asleep. When you’re a CASIGY™ (Creative, Acutely Aware, Super-Sensitive, Intense, and/or Gifted You), you may face challenges with sleep that have a slightly different twist than others face. And if you have ADHD, Anxiety, Depression or other ‘labels’, sleep can be an even greater challenge. Here’s seven tips to help creative sensitive gifted people sleep peacefully. A creative person may have creative ideas show up as soon as their head hits the pillow. …

Remembering Columbine: Helping Creative, Highly Sensitive & Gifted Adults Heal from Trauma

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Remembering Columbine – healing trauma for creative sensitive gifted people. Nineteen years ago this Friday, April 20, 1999, my husband Gary and I connected for a rare lunch together. As we munched on our sandwiches under a restaurant patio umbrella, we saw police car after police car roaring south through Lakewood on Wadsworth Blvd, sirens wailing . Chills went up and down my spine as we also heard the rumble of big military type helicopters overhead. We saw that they were all heading for Columbine-our new neighborhood, where we had lived for only six weeks.  We knew something BIG and BAD …

How CASIGYs Can Become Social-Emotional ACES

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Many highly sensitive, creative, gifted or twice exceptional people struggle to find and keep their balance emotionally. It’s not that they don’t have emotions or aren’t in touch with their emotions, but they tell me that they are often find it challenging and even overwhelming to find ways to cope with them and manage them. But CASIGYs can overcome this overwhelm. Here’s how CASIGYs Can Become Social-Emotional ACES! The top three emotional and mental health concerns of gifted people are  Sensitivity Anxiety Depression according to research done and published by SENGifted.org. I have found the same to be true in …

How to Thrive as an Independent Thinking Maverick

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As a CASIGY (a Creative, Acutely Aware, Super-Sensitive, Intense and/or Gifted You) do you have unconventional views that often cause you trouble? Does your child or loved one? Do you have to be careful when and where you express your views or ask your questions? If you or your child are not careful, can this quickly create conflict or complicate relationships at home, at work or at school? You or your child may be an independent thinking Maverick, and may encounter many challenges in life that are unique to being an independent thinking Maverick. Here’s info about some of those …

How to Spring Into Life

Sharon Barnes CASIGY, Gifted, Highly Sensitive, Soul Care

How to Spring into Life Reflections and Encouragement for Times When Growth and Change aren’t Easy Next week the Equinox will arrive whether we dread it or welcome it. As I inhabit the Northern Hemisphere, I will be welcoming spring. Do you savor the warmth of the sun after the cold winter, as I do? Do you enjoy seeing trees bud and crocuses, daffodils and tulips bloom, like I do?  Maybe you’re a CASIGY™, that is, a Creative, Acutely Aware, Super-Sensitive, Intense, and/or Gifted “You”, and you are intensely aware and tuned in to such things. Do these seasonal changes prompt you …

HSP Gifted Mental LogJams

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“’Mental LogJam’ is a Game Changer for Me. I’m not Crazy. I’m a CASIGY.” I stood there tongue-tied. I wanted to say something, but four ideas competed to get out first. In my resulting confusion, nothing came out but stuttering and stammering. My supposedly great ideas got stuck inside of me and I couldn’t get any of them out; I had a mental logjam. Instead of making the significant contribution to the discussion that I wanted to make, I felt like a fool. Has that ever happened to you? Has it happened over and over again? Welcome to one aspect …

Sensitive Gifted New Years Tools

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Is Facing the New Year as a Creative, Sensitive or Gifted Person Daunting? Here’s Inspiration and some Creative,  Sensitive Gifted New Years Tools – As one year ends, and a new one begins, we tend to ponder our lives. We ask,  “Is my life where I want it to be? Are my relationships the way I want them to be? My finances? My spiritual/soul life? My work? My health?” Just in case they’re not, and you, too may sometimes wonder if you (or your creative, sensitive, or gifted kids)  can actually craft a life you (or they) love to live, here’s …