Creative Coping Archives - Therapist for Sensitive and Gifted

Mistakes – Antidote to Perfectionism

Mistakes: Antidote to Perfectionism, As Revealed by One Day’s Contemplative Handwork™ CASIGYs™, AKA Creative, Acutely Aware, Super-Sensitive, Intense, and/or Gifted You-s are known (among other things) for their vulnerability to perfectionism. We can have pretty (OK, very) high standards for ourselves, and sometimes for others, too. Those high standards can easily slide into personal expectations of doing everything perfectly. This can translate into expectations of BEING PERFECT. When I am doing new things in life, moving out

Sharon Barnes October 5, 2018

Creative Guidance from a SoulShirt™ Adventure, Part 2 of 3

Continuing my story when my SoulShirt™ spoke to me, not literally, but by listening with my Inner Ear─ We’ve all had creative moments; some have even felt divinely led by an inner voice. How do you practice connecting with your heart and soul? Or are you searching for a way to feel the aliveness and results from trusting your inner voice? My Heart told me that it felt warmed and nurtured by my wearing something

Sharon Barnes August 3, 2018

How to Ride Out Life’s Tough Times: Hang Loose in the Washing Machine!

Adversity is something everyone faces at some time in their life. Adversity often has a greater impact on CASIGYs™ (Creative, Acutely Aware, Super-Sensitive, Intense and/or Gifted You-s) than it does on neurotypical people. So, for the CASIGYs™ in your life, here’s How to Ride Out Life’s Tough Times: Hang Loose in the Washing Machine! Several years ago, I was helping one of my counseling clients learn how to cope with overwhelming emotions connected to the adversity he

Sharon Barnes June 27, 2018

Being an Empath – When you Feel Emotions That are not Your Own

Ten year old Aiden (not his real name) dissolves in a puddle of tears. Once he has calmed down and can actually talk about it, you discover that he has no idea why he feels sad. No, he is not hurt physically. No, no one said or did anything that hurt his feelings. No, he is not afraid or scared about anything. You -and he- remain puzzled. As a parent, what do you do? And

Sharon Barnes June 21, 2018

I Hate Mothers Day

Reflections on How to to Heal our Lives, Feed our Souls, and Grow our Dreams I hate Mother’s Day. Awful though it sounds, I’ve hated mother’s day for a very long time. I’ve also felt guilty that I hated it. I also know it’s not politically correct, so I’ve not said it out loud. But it’s time to admit it. I hate Mother’s Day. I first hated it when I was in my twenties. I

Sharon Barnes May 10, 2018

Seven Tips to Help the Creative, Sensitive or Gifted Sleep Peacefully

Sleep can be elusive for anyone, whether you’re 3, 13, 33 or 83. We all have nights where we toss and turn, or get to sleep but we can’t stay asleep. When you’re a CASIGY™ (Creative, Acutely Aware, Super-Sensitive, Intense, and/or Gifted You), you may face challenges with sleep that have a slightly different twist than others face. And if you have ADHD, Anxiety, Depression or other ‘labels’, sleep can be an even greater challenge. Here’s seven tips

Sharon Barnes April 24, 2018

How CASIGYs Can Become Social-Emotional ACES

Many highly sensitive, creative, gifted or twice exceptional people struggle to find and keep their balance emotionally. It’s not that they don’t have emotions or aren’t in touch with their emotions, but they tell me that they are often find it challenging and even overwhelming to find ways to cope with them and manage them. But CASIGYs can overcome this overwhelm. Here’s how CASIGYs Can Become Social-Emotional ACES! The top three emotional and mental health

Sharon Barnes April 13, 2018

5 Intuitive, Creative Steps to Heal from Life’s Hurts

An Intuitive, Creative Approach to Healing from Life’s Hurts Or, How to E-E-E-K-K Your Way Through Adversity to Destinations of Delight When tough times hit and our life’s path seems to disappear in the fog; when we are faced with illness, loss, financial reversals or other adversity, it can be easy to feel like we have lost our moorings. We may struggle to keep our feet under us, or to change the metaphor, to keep

Sharon Barnes January 12, 2018

Sensitive Gifted New Years Tools

Is Facing the New Year as a Creative, Sensitive or Gifted Person Daunting? Here’s Inspiration and some Creative, Sensitive Gifted New Years Tools – As one year ends, and a new one begins, we tend to ponder our lives. We ask, “Is my life where I want it to be? Are my relationships the way I want them to be? My finances? My spiritual/soul life? My work? My health?” Just in case they’re not, and you,

Sharon Barnes January 4, 2018

How Creative Sensitive Gifted People Can Cope with Trauma

New Year’s Eve, 2017 started with a bang in Highlands Ranch, my home town. Before sunrise, police answered a domestic dispute call. Before it was all over, one officer was killed and other officers and citizens were wounded, according to the Denver Post. This photo shows law enforcement officers gathering by Littleton Adventist Hospital to form a motorcade in honor of the fallen officer. Tragedy such as this, natural disasters, terrorism and mass shootings may

Sharon Barnes December 31, 2017

Mistakes – Antidote to Perfectionism

Creative Guidance from a SoulShirt™ Adventure, Part 2 of 3

How to Ride Out Life’s Tough Times: Hang Loose in the Washing Machine!

Being an Empath – When you Feel Emotions That are not Your Own

I Hate Mothers Day

Seven Tips to Help the Creative, Sensitive or Gifted Sleep Peacefully

How CASIGYs Can Become Social-Emotional ACES

5 Intuitive, Creative Steps to Heal from Life’s Hurts

Sensitive Gifted New Years Tools

How Creative Sensitive Gifted People Can Cope with Trauma

Mistakes – Antidote to Perfectionism

Nine Lessons I Learned on Road to First Grade

Love’s Labor; my SoulShirt™ Process and Surprise Effects – Part 3 of 3